Don’t Wait Until You’re Dead to Start Living

Have you ever stopped and really taken an inventory of how you spend your time? Everyone has an epiphany at some point in their lives … unfortunately, most stories I hear is that it takes some type of tragic event to ask, am I spending my time doing what I love?

I bet before “adulting” took over your life, you had hopes and dreams about the life you were going to live. But then life happens, children are born, bills need to be paid, and all of a sudden we have put our vision on hold. If this resonates with you at all, I’m here to tell you there is a way to turn this ship around.

Take a minute and close your eyes … well, read the next couple of sentences, then go ahead and close your eyes. In the mental health field, we call this the “miracle question”. If a miracle happened tonight, and you woke up tomorrow what would the life you want look like? Ok, now close your eyes and imagine.

Are you living that life? Why not?

We have to be honest about what stands in between us and our dreams. Often times, I talk with people who come to realize they are the biggest barrier to their own dreams.

We all have those things in our life that we HAVE to do but sometimes the fear of guilt or opinions of others means that we fill our time with things we feel obligated to do. You know what I’m talking about … think about what that thing in your life is. PTA meetings? Book club? That family event you loathe? Or maybe you have the reflex of ‘yes’, you just say yes to everything people ask of you.

I am here to tell you that ‘NO’ is a one word sentence. And saying yes to yourself may mean saying no to other people.

Recently, I realized that I have filled my calendar to the point where I wasn’t able to attend to my own needs or the relationships in my life the way that I want to be. And if I don’t prioritize my time to take care of myself and my relationships, no one else will do it for me. Today, I am thankful for people in my life who remind me to slow down, to be grateful for all life has to offer, and to live each day like it may be our last doing what we love with who we love.